Understand your emotions
Dealing with your emotions is fashionable today. Is it vital? What for? Emotions are a very ancient and very primitive sensor, which only those who are not used to using a more advanced system – the mind – is guided by.
Emotions are an aid. If your mind once denies you, feelings will begin to hedge you, thanks to them for that. But emotions are weaker than reason. A drunk’s behavior is an excellent illustration of the behavior of a person who has a bad head and who is guided by only emotions.
I would like to believe that such samples do not inspire you. Those who are all right with their mind turn to reason, not emotions, to solve life problems. We need emotions, but not all, and not always. This is a fundamental question, so be careful now. I will propose to divide all emotions into two classes, and let’s call them left and right feelings.
Left emotions are the ones that drive us
The left is the one that takes the place of our mind and makes us do what they dictate to us. The right-wingers are those who obey us, serve our tasks, as our helpers and tools.
Left emotions get in our way. These are problematic and stupid emotions.
We must go forward, but I’m afraid. I have to perform in front of people, but I’m worried. It would be best if you smiled, but I’m angry. Damn, what kind of attack is this! But the right emotions are a joy.
This is the joy that we give to our loved ones and loved ones; this is gratitude to those who honestly deserve it, this admiration for what was created to steal our soul and direct it upward. And, of course, this is the everyday language of non-verbal communication: what words alone will not convey will be communicated by our intonations, eloquent glances, and hands turned to the lovely interlocutor.
Is it worth understanding emotions?
OK, you understand that there are emotions left and right. And now the main thing: do you need to understand your emotions? Is it worth understanding them? Of course, you do. But most likely, you have figured out all the raw feelings for a long time, and no additional efforts are required from you. Are you OK. Don’t create problems where there are none!
Let’s explain it
If the emotion is right, then there is nothing to understand about it – this is your intention and creation. It only needs to be done and corrected along the way, selecting and expressing what will work more efficiently for your task.
How to thank your excellent staff?
Indeed, how to thank your excellent staff? This needs to be done both from the heart and the mind; here, you need to think well, and inspiration is required. The art of giving thanks is excellent! Master this art, train in your right emotions!
And if the emotion is left, then there is no need to deal with it either. Why understand it? It’s superfluous; you don’t need it. Your task is only to notice it and replace it with the right emotion.
It is stupid to be angry with yourself for your mistakes. Sort out your mistakes, analyze, and correct the situation with enthusiasm. Turn on your enthusiasm!
See your emotions as your employees and learn to be their leader. For a good leader, employees do not ask him for tasks but work. Become a real leader – the leader of yourself, and put things in order in your soul. Emotion management should be in your hands.
Today, during the day, observe what emotions you and people (your loved ones or your colleagues) are experiencing (giving out) next to you. Based on your observations, make three lists:
Name the left emotions, note their duration, and think over a reasonable replacement for them. A substitute can be both more reasonable emotions and just reasonable actions.
Analyze your right emotions: are you sure that your interlocutors understood them correctly? That they wanted precisely this? Ask your interlocutors for feedback, make sure that your emotions are always on time; people are pleasant and help the cause.
Of course, there are also controversial cases. Is it right to get upset if you think it’s stupid, and others expect it from you? There are many questions. Collect them and discuss them at the Distance meetings.